A Funny Twist

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I heard in an FM radio program that this DJ, who is known to give a straight to the point advices to his callers and listeners, have a problem which he usually try to solve for others. That same DJ cried on air because of his personal dilemma. I will not elaborate more in his problem regarding his lovelife. I only want to share this same situation that happens to a lot of people. People can say some good advice to those who are in a difficult situation. This usually happens among friends and families. It is not meddling but showing concern and giving motivational help for those who really needed it. The issue is being in a twisted situation. A dilemma that you have actually given solution for others but ironically, now that you're personally experiencing it, are in need of that same solution. We usually know how to solve it for others, but how come we have a hard time dealing with it ourselves?

Seldom are people who dealt their problems head on and finally move on. We all have the capacity to do that. But for whatever reasons maybe, personal affinity to the problem, human weaknesses, risks, are only considerations to take a look at but should not hinder upon doing the appropriate solution and action. People always know what is right. We all do have problems that were custom made for each and everyone of us. But really, emotions are the biggest pull down factors for us. Hey, what pulls us down may actually push us up. Once you're down, there is nowhere else to go but up, just keep moving.

I am currently dealing about this problem. We all have to prepare for our future and family life. In fact, I always gave advices to my compeers who were in that situations, an example was having an unplanned pregnancy way before even planning to settle down. I do give advices and always happy to help those who need some "enlightenment". Here is my situation: I worry about that promise I gave to my girlfriend for us to be wedded next year but what hunts me is the fact that I still do not have the capacity and the right to be a financially stable family man. It depresses me. I do not want to get older without a family. It is hard to follow your child growing up, specially that the world is rapidly changing and provides gaps for each generations. And we all do know that human life span is getting lesser and lesser as years gone by. I do not want to be financially unstable with children entering high school with me as either their sick or dead father. It really frightens me.

I know I gave people advices on those same problems, but actually, I do need to remind myself of those advices. A personal time for yourself is all you need. What I did is I stop for a while, shutdown my computer, get away from any outside distractions and just focused on myself. I did a personal check up. Where am I right now, what is the goal that I have to achieve, and what is that problem thats causing me to slow down or blocks my way. It is like giving myself a time to heal and recover from the scars of scares. And after the evaluation, we can come up with a solution. What we actually need is within ourselves. We are all capable of solving our problems. That is why it is called "problem", because problems have solutions. If the a situation has no immediate remedy, therefore it will have in it's own time or it shouldn't bothered you at all. Most of the times we create our problems. We can also inject our respective solutions. I am not saying that you should be just positive because knowing what are on the negative side is as much as important. For me, I found out that I simply lose my motivation, that is the problem. What pulls me down, the feeling of time running out has become a push up factor for me to be more industrious and smart. To be more motivated and inspired. All I need and we need to to is to be broad minded. Be calm. Be responsible. And most of all, be caring for yourself.